Misanthropy Is So Underrated

Options are So Overrated & Underrated

Posted in Overrated, Underrated by mpal219 on 23/10/2009

Options: the power or right to choose : freedom of choice


In life we are always faced with the fact that a decision must be made. Whether it is simple as choosing what breakfast to eat in the morning or as difficult as choosing a career. As an adult you are always forced to make a decisions. Inevitably with decisions there are options. Options are a very tricky things. There is so much POWER in the options that you have. I have witnessed this power doing wonderful things, while at other times I’ve seen this power take a turn for the worst. The fluid nature of of the power makes options overrated & underrated.
The “freedom of choice” motto/motif is one of the basic “principles” of our American society. We are free to do what we want when we want. Then why do we run away from this choice. When you get down to it the power in your freedom of choice is very hard to handle. Why? There are so many different things that you must take into account before you make a decision: personal experiences, perceptions, feelings, other people’s feelings, morals, thoughts, attitudes, stands, etc. But when I think about it these are things you keep in mind when you make an intelligent decision. That a decision to lay all the cards out on table and figure out all of the options that you have.
It is very unfortunate that many people (especially people I know) don’t make intelligent decisions. To quote one of the people I know, making decisions “with one hand over my eye.” I have the option to do the best for me but I don’t want to take advantage of the power and freedom that comes along with that. I will just hope for the best. Granted, there needs to be some level of spontaneous decision making in your life, but when does the spontaneous decision making end and the intelligent one begin? Options are a gift and a curse from whatever higher being you may or may not believe in. When making a decision with “one hand over your eye” you allow that covered eye to be blinded to reality of the situation. A keen knowledge of reality will lead to understand the big picture.
What happens when you don’t make an intelligent decision? Well that’s obvious… you get lucky and everything will work out or you are going to cause harm to yourself or others. I feel the latter part of the last sentence is what really fuels my misanthropy. Why? Because what I am about to say in that regard is relatively straight-forward and at the same time slightly complex.
Scenario: John is Franks friend. John does something to Frank. Frank is angry. John apologises to Frank. Frank doesn’t accept his apology immediately. John gets angry. John and Frank are no longer friends.
The purpose of using a very null scenario was to eliminate any judgement calls based on the situation. This is about as straightforward as it gets.
Easy SituationIt is easy for Frank to make the decision to not forgive John quickly. It is either he accepts it or he doesn’t. There may a variety of reasons why Frank doesn’t accept it quickly but he doesn’t. At the end of the day, all the decisions are that easy. You are either going to do or your aren’t. It is either going to be in the negative or the affirmative. Again, this is one of the gifts and one of the curses in the power and freedom of options.
Slightly Complex Situation
From John’s Perspective – John is angry at Frank because he didn’t easily and quickly make the decision to forgive him.
From Frank’s Perspective – John is really asking Frank to do something that is totally contradictory to what he is essentially asking for forgiveness for. John is asking Frank to make a quick, un-calculated, non-intelligent decision. John is giving Frank no time to work through it. John is essentially asking Frank to forgive him for not weighing his options before making a decision. How can John ask Frank to do something, make it seem simple, and then get angry when it doesn’t go his way.
That scenario is what I feel about options. When a good decision is made as a result of the options presented everyone is happy, but when the converse happens some ask you to quickly retreat to the same feeling you would get if there was a good decision made. For me NO I will not! We all make mistakes and I am okay with that, but you cannot make a terrible decision and then hope for the other party to quickly move on past it. It is going to take time. The word “I’m Sorry” (A topic of a future blog) is not the magic words that makes everything to be okay. Whatever you did to trangress against the other person…that person felt the result of your decision or your failure to understand the power and freedom that you have in options.
The flip side of it all is that some people like to accumulate options. The power and freedom in options is being subverted to feel whatever feeling that he/she may have. I am reminded of a quote by George Orwell “Power is not a means. It is an end.” There are a lot of people who feel that having many options givens them the power and means to control a situation. (Which I believe it is essentially true), but like the second part of that quote says it is also an end. The options that youchose to hold on to are the gateway to the end. This reminds me a lot of dating. Especially with men, there is an idea that you must keep your options open when dating so that you can have the power to eventually make a decision on which person you want to date. Great, but what is that the end of? That is the end of a chance to understand people on an intimate level. For a lot of people, that is the end of their honesty as they will lie to the other people they are dating. The end of really putting your life into perspective and seeing how a person may or may not fit in it. The end of being able to walk away from the situation without hurting other people in the long run. (I am going to end it there, because I have a whole blog dedicated to dating to…I think the sentiment is there.)
Options are powerful. They give you the freedom of choice and the right the choose. This can be something good or something bad. I think it should be known that making intelligent decisions and understanding your options can be hard. Its hards, it scary, and its good for you. I really think that we will be a better people if we understood the magnitude of options.

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